Who is your go-to gal? Does she build you up? Does she tell you to get off the phone with her and call your customers? Maybe it’s your husband or significant other? Does he support you? Is he your biggest cheerleader? What about when you have questions or when you don’t know what to say to a customer or prospect? Do you call your director or team leader? Mary Kay said to hitch your wagon to a star. Sometimes we try to go it alone. We think “I’ve got this,” and just go about our daily lives doing our thing without connecting with others in regards to our businesses. When we do that, we risk isolation and defeat.
When you feel isolated you risk just forgetting about your business altogether. You aren’t around the excitement and action of others working, you’re not hearing their success stories or remembering why you started your business in the first place. Avoiding isolation is pretty simple. First, go to your weekly or monthly meetings. Connect with your sister consultants there and online. Join Facebook groups and visit director’s sites and youtube channels. Find time daily for business inspiration and training. Even if you only block out 10 or 15 minutes a day, you’ll remind yourself you have a business and keep you working toward your goal.
If you feel isolated and not working toward your goal, you’re likely to feel defeated. We’ve already talked about how to avoid isolation, but in the process of staying connected, you’ll also be preventing yourself from feeling defeated. We’re often taught to set large goals that scare us but you should also have small very attainable goals to help you feel accomplishment on a daily and weekly basis. These goals may be as simple as completing a 6 most important list each day, calling a certain amount of customers a week or holding a certain amount of parties a month. These small goals help you see progress and feel a sense of accomplishment.
Staying connected with others with similar goals, and staying connected with those who have achieved what we hope to achieve will benefit us in the long run. You’ll avoid isolation that can lead to defeat that will ultimately lead to failure. So next time you feel guilty for going to a meeting, or like you’re not “really working.” Remember that is actually one of the best things you can do for the mental well being of your self and your business.
I like reading books written by successful people. Sometimes, rarely, success just happens to someone. That’s unusual. Most of the time successful people seek out success. They plan for it, imagine it and work for it daily. This got me thinking. What if, as a test, we emulate them? What if, for a time, say a whole year, we do what they say worked for them? What if we follow their lead and use their example? There are so many examples of successful consultants, directors and national sales directors in Mary Kay. What if you picked one, read her story, found her plan and just did it? I’ve been thinking about that lately. What is it that stops us? It’s fear. We’re afraid of failure, we’re afraid of success. We’re afraid of looking silly or not being good enough. We’re afraid of other women and we’re afraid of ourselves. It’s all just fear. What if we could separate ourselves from our fear, and just do the work? This is what I’m thinking about. Talk to your director, talk to your national. You are not your fear. Success is for you.
A quick google search of the word “perseverance” brings us to the Merriam Webster definition.
continued effort to do or achieve something despite difficulties, failure, or opposition : the action or condition or an instance of persevering: steadfastness
My favorite quote on Perseverance is by Newt Gingrich. “Perseverance is the hard work you do after you get tired of doing the hard work you already did.”
It means not quitting.
It means not giving up.
What does that mean for you today? Does it mean another afternoon in the office when it seems the whole world is at the pool or beach? Does it mean making phone calls, meeting with consultants and customers when you feel like you’ve already talked to everyone? Does it mean getting creative and figuring out new ways to reach your goals?
Perseverance probably means all of that and so much more to you right now. I can tell you one thing, a few days will pass, the end of the month will come. It will either come with you reaching your goal or not. The difference will be in how you feel about yourself. The difference will be in whether or not you pressed on.
Now is your chance, don’t leave anything on the table.
I joined a new gym in January and I love going there. There are a wide variety of classes, one offering is Yoga. I go once, sometimes twice a week. Every time, without fail, I cry.
Like, an actual sob.
I don’t have any idea why. But I feel great when I walk back out that door.
At first, I was trying to fight it. I would do everything I could to hold back the tears. Just last week I decided that from now on, I’m just going to go with it. So I pick up a towel on my way into class and as we flow through the vinyasa, the tears flow down my face. The truth is, I think I’ve found my balance.
If you’re like me, and many women are, you have two speeds. Turbo and asleep. Yoga is neither turbo nor is it sleep. That’s where I stop, just before I hit the brick wall. I slow down and actually breathe. I think about all the things that I am thankful for and I pray. Down run the tears and I never hit the wall.
For once in my life I’ve found a balance between running everywhere, working, being a mom, a cook, a cleaner, and folder of laundry. Somewhere between being a friend and wife, a daughter and volunteer I balance. It’s one of the best hours of my week.
It’s hard to walk away and go to class. I have to leave my phone at the door. Sometimes I leave my family still eating dinner and who knows what will happen to the dishes. But I walk away from all the crazy where I am focused and quiet for 60 minutes. I encourage you to find a balance. You’re working so hard right now to reach your goals. Year-end is so close you can almost hear the crowd cheer in the arena. You might feel like you can’t stop. You can’t take even a one minute break. It can literally consume every hour of the day because you’ll likely dream about your work. I challenge you to leave it all, to walk away for just 60 minutes a week. Have you considered the benefit it would have to your business if you were recharged? Go for a run, find a yoga class, get on your knees and pray, journal in a coffee shop (with your phone in the car.) I think the key is to focus on just one activity. I bet you’ll leave stronger, energized, emotionally and spiritually relaxed. (You might even meet a new face or two.) I challenge you to find your own balance. And please, tell me about it. Comment here or on our FB page with how you are or plan to find your balance.
There are a few times in life that we know, looking back, were pivotal moments. For me, one of those moments came when someone said, “dream your own dream.” This might sound crazy but it is not only possible but actually easy to dream someone else’s dream for you.
I believe this can come in two forms. When someone doesn’t want what you want or when you don’t want what do….I’ll explain.
For example, you might have someone in your life telling you that your dream is unachievable, or worse not even real. This can really hurt if you love that person. This is someone that is always going to be in your life. In that situation let them know that it would be nice if they were on your team, but if they’re not, that’s ok. You can say “You know what, you might be right. You might also be wrong. But honestly, this is my gig and I’m going to give it my best effort. Even if I fail a little along the way, I’m going to keep going. If you don’t support what I’m doing, just support and love me and just don’t tell me that you disagree. Because I already know.” I believe that over time as your loved one sees you enjoying your journey that he or she will start to soften up. Chance are they are just trying to protect you. But, sometimes you just have to tie your boots and trust in your training.
Another example might be when someone has a dream for you that just isn’t your dream. If your dream is to be a successful beauty consultant with hundreds of customers, do that. That’s a great dream. Be the best at it. Sell more, win more prizes, touch more lives with facials and skin care parties. It is ok for your dreams to be your dreams. Every career level in Mary Kay can be very lucrative. Each one is a good goal. If you want to drive a new car free of charge, do that. Share the opportunity, sell the product, help other women build their businesses. Make that your dream, not someone else’s dream for you. Someone might see something in you that you don’t see. She might be very well-meaning and she might want to tell you that she thinks you’re amazing and can do anything, but you just don’t see that. It might sound scary when she tells you all the things she thinks you could be. The thing is, you actually CAN do those things, but they have to be your own dreams, you have to own them or they will never come true. In my opinion (trust me on this, it’s just my opinion) it’s ok to dream little dreams. If you start stacking those little dreams on top of each other you may end up farther along than you ever imagined. But if you don’t own them, if they are never truly yours, you’ll look back and not understand where you are or what brought you there and you might even be unhappy.
When you’re looking at your life or at your business, don’t let someone stop you. Go as far as you can imagine, then go a little farther. Dream big but only what is truly your own. On the flip side, don’t let anyone tell you that your dreams, your goals aren’t good enough or big enough. Big dreams are relative to the dreamer. What seems small to them might actually be the biggest dream you’ve ever dared dream and girlfriend, that’s ok. You just keep on reaching for that one and once you hold it in your hands, admire it’s beauty and dream on. You’ve got this. It’s all yours.
After talking to many of you I know you’re busy filling out your taxes and thinking about what you bought and sold in 2017. You’re looking at records and considering last year. When you’re looking at the past, be sure to focus on the future.
Know your numbers. Did you sell less than what you would have liked? How much product would you like to sell in 2018? Once you have this number, divide it by 48 or 49 (assuming that you will take a vacation and have times that you just can’t work.) This is what your weekly goal should be. After you know your weekly sales goal, you can determine how many customers you need to see to meet this goal.
Set a goal. Look back at your weekly accomplishment sheets for 2017. Divide the total by the number of people who ordered for several weeks. You’ll start to see your average customer sale. Once you know this information you’ll know how many customers you need to sell to each week. To be safe, make it a goal to see 1/3 more customers than you need to sell to. So if you need to sell to 10 people each week, plan to see 13. Then to ensure that you see 13, be sure to talk to 17. (Your own personal averages might be different, and your goals will vary. Remember if you need to meet more people be sure to book parties and classes, not just individual facials, whenever you can.)
Get visual. Once you know your weekly goals you can create a chart. Color happy faces for how many people you need to see each week or color a box green on graph paper for every 5 dollars you sell. Come up with something fun and creative. Post your chart in your office or where ever you’ll see it often. It will keep you motivated all year.
These are just sales goals ideas. I know you’ve got team building goals and car goals as well. One of my favorite sayings is “A goal is a dream with a deadline.” Do the math to figure out what you need to do to reach your own personal success.
Be sure to track all of your sales, income and expense in Pink Office so you can keep a close eye on your accomplishments.
My closet is full, my pantry is full, I am warm. I have a job, my husband loves me and he loves our children and he also has a job.
Last night I was at a store where you get everything for a dollar. A group of teen age boys was in line ahead of me. They were from the children’s home. For some reason or another they had to be removed from their own homes. One boy had three items and two dollars. The next lady in line gave him the extra dollar. One dollar stood between him and some cookies, a little happiness.
I sometimes let food expire.
Last night just before bed my freshman daughter came with tear filled eyes and a note she had hand written to give to a boy at school. He’s moved from foster home to foster home and now lives in a boys’ home. Behavior issues have made it so that he can no longer stay there and will be moving out of state to live with the friend of his mother. His mother is in prison, his father in a half way house in another sate. She asked if she had done enough to show this broken boy love. She’s given him a Bible, friendship and from what I understand a ton of patience.
There are presents wrapped for my daughters under our Christmas tree.
It’s hard for a kid to understand why they have so much, and others have so little.
This holiday season, whether you celebrate Christmas or Chanukah or any other holiday, consider those with less.
I don’t mean those with a smaller TV, or who drive a minivan instead of an SUV. I mean those who truly have less.
Consider those who don’t have a hot meal, a bed, a home, a job. Consider those who don’t have the arms of a loving mother to fall into, those whose lives have been shaken by abuse, suicide and mental illness.
Let this holiday season be the beginning of something new in our own hearts. Something that won’t just be a December tradition, but something we’ll do all year long.
I know of a few great organizations, but even more exist in your local area. Churches have food pantries and free clothing. Local shelters need volunteers. You have options.
Dress for Success provides business attire for women to wear to job interviews as well as when beginning work. There are locations all over the country and this is a wonderful place to donate product to. Your product for a few limited edition releases back is still good stuff and can actually help someone feel confident at a job interview. You always knew eyeshadow could be life changing.
Have you ever heard someone say “You won’t make any money selling Mary Kay.” Or “You have a college degree, why would you sell Mary Kay.” Or, everyone’s favorite. “I knew someone who did that and she bought a bunch of inventory and then didn’t sell anything.”
Let’s talk about each one of those wonderful comments our “well meaning” family members and friends might say.
“You won’t make any money selling Mary Kay.”
Maybe your loved one doesn’t understand that MK has one of the highest profit rates in all of direct sales. You have the opportunity to make double what you spend. What she might not know is that you’re paying close attention to the money that you’re spending. You’re not just tracking the money that is coming into your account through sales by keeping invoices in Pink Office, but you’re also tracking your wholesale purchases and other expenses in Pink Office. Not every app available gives you the opportunity to track how much you spent on cotton balls at Target or on coffee when you were interviewing a potential team member. With out this information you have no idea how much money you’re actually making or where to cut corners if you need to. For more information check out your tax info report for a complete picture of your income and expenses.
“You have a college degree, why would you sell Mary Kay?”
Hopefully that degree made you smart. And being smart, you know a good thing when you see it. I think of top directors and nationals that I’ve heard speak over they years. They talk about their degrees and how they heard this friendly concern from those they love. Unfortunately today, degrees don’t always mean jobs or careers. Degrees don’t give you the flexibility you realize you need as you raise a family or watch parents age. Also, degrees often come with debt and what better way to relieve that debt than with instant income?
“I knew someone who did that and she bought a bunch of inventory and then didn’t sell anything.”
This disenchanted person didn’t understand that being a beauty consultant was a job. She must not have known that it was going to be work. Good, profitable work, but work nonetheless. Perhaps she didn’t attend training, perhaps she didn’t know how to set goals and break them down into manageable pieces. Whatever the reason, it applied to her, not all consultants for all times. We’ve all seen our director’s closets busting with inventory they can’t keep on the shelves. We’ve seen the new consultant that fits her products into an under-the-bed storage bin in her tiny apartment. The beauty of the business is that you make it work for you, and then you work it. Don’t ever let someone else’s bad experience plant seeds of fear.
When family and friends say these things they think they’re helping. They think they’re telling you something you’ve never heard.
Be smart: work your business like a business and use your Pink Office to track every penny going in and out of your account. Write yourself a weekly paycheck and make that a business expense. Work smart!
Your worked hard for your degree and being an Independent Beauty Consultant is a smart person’s job. Own it.
I know someone who bough bad milk at the grocery store, some one who got their purse stolen at the gas station on the corner and someone who met the worst sales associate at the department store at the mall. But guess what? That doesn’t mean it’s going to happen to me. Even the most well meaning people will accidentally tell you a negative story.
To finish up, write yourself and affirmation. Anytime someone tries to rain on your parade, repeat it in your head, out loud in your car, or just tell them. Keep stretching.
Sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in WHAT we do, in the day to day, and forget WHY we do it.
When you’re feeling overwhelmed, or you feel like you’re taking baby steps toward your goal, when you face failure or feelings of defeat, remember your passion.
Surround yourself with people who share your passion. Ask your Recruiter, Director, Senior Director or NSD (based on where you are on the career path) to join you for coffee. Ask her what she does when she feels she isn’t moving forward, or isn’t reaching her goals fast enough. Meet with other consultants or directors to share ideas and work toward common goals. Create or join an accountability group for other consultants or directors who are trying to reach the same goal. You will be inspired, encouraged and reignited from time with these women and they will likely glean the same experience from time spent with you.
Keep in mind, what goes in is what comes out. Listen to talks from seminar, career conference and meetings from years gone by. Read spiritually uplifting books. Listen to positive music and eat good food. Start a gratitude journal. Write notes to friends, family, customers, team members and unit members regularly. You’ll find your own spirits lifted.
Serve somewhere. Serve in church, serve in a soup kitchen, serve in a nursing home, serve in a school. Where ever it might be in what ever way you can find a way to serve others. You might have time for this to be a weekly or monthly occurrence. Serving allows you to forget what it is that is heavy on your own heart and focus your attention to the lives of others.
When you do these things you will remember why you wanted to begin this business in the first place. You will make connections with like minded individuals. You will remember why you needed the change, the extra money and girl-friends. You’ll be filled up emotionally and able to pour out to others. Your passion for empowering women will exude from you and you will have the opportunity to impact the community around you.