There are a few times in life that we know, looking back, were pivotal moments. For me, one of those moments came when someone said, “dream your own dream.” This might sound crazy but it is not only possible but actually easy to dream someone else’s dream for you.
I believe this can come in two forms. When someone doesn’t want what you want or when you don’t want what do….I’ll explain.
For example, you might have someone in your life telling you that your dream is unachievable, or worse not even real. This can really hurt if you love that person. This is someone that is always going to be in your life. In that situation let them know that it would be nice if they were on your team, but if they’re not, that’s ok. You can say “You know what, you might be right. You might also be wrong. But honestly, this is my gig and I’m going to give it my best effort. Even if I fail a little along the way, I’m going to keep going. If you don’t support what I’m doing, just support and love me and just don’t tell me that you disagree. Because I already know.” I believe that over time as your loved one sees you enjoying your journey that he or she will start to soften up. Chance are they are just trying to protect you. But, sometimes you just have to tie your boots and trust in your training.
Another example might be when someone has a dream for you that just isn’t your dream. If your dream is to be a successful beauty consultant with hundreds of customers, do that. That’s a great dream. Be the best at it. Sell more, win more prizes, touch more lives with facials and skin care parties. It is ok for your dreams to be your dreams. Every career level in Mary Kay can be very lucrative. Each one is a good goal. If you want to drive a new car free of charge, do that. Share the opportunity, sell the product, help other women build their businesses. Make that your dream, not someone else’s dream for you. Someone might see something in you that you don’t see. She might be very well-meaning and she might want to tell you that she thinks you’re amazing and can do anything, but you just don’t see that. It might sound scary when she tells you all the things she thinks you could be. The thing is, you actually CAN do those things, but they have to be your own dreams, you have to own them or they will never come true. In my opinion (trust me on this, it’s just my opinion) it’s ok to dream little dreams. If you start stacking those little dreams on top of each other you may end up farther along than you ever imagined. But if you don’t own them, if they are never truly yours, you’ll look back and not understand where you are or what brought you there and you might even be unhappy.
When you’re looking at your life or at your business, don’t let someone stop you. Go as far as you can imagine, then go a little farther. Dream big but only what is truly your own. On the flip side, don’t let anyone tell you that your dreams, your goals aren’t good enough or big enough. Big dreams are relative to the dreamer. What seems small to them might actually be the biggest dream you’ve ever dared dream and girlfriend, that’s ok. You just keep on reaching for that one and once you hold it in your hands, admire it’s beauty and dream on. You’ve got this. It’s all yours.